"It's not Mine, so it's not responsibility"

One of the most important things (in my mind) on this Earth, are children. I melt when I hear a child's laugh, I want to cry when I hear a child cry....they are the most innocent beings and seeing life through their eyes is truly how we should be living our lives every day.

Now that I got that little piece of adivce off my chest, this goes back a few years when I was kinda dating (I don't necessarily call it dating because it wasn't anything serious or official). Of course, I'd have deep convos (as I do with everyone I meet) with the prospects and one guy in particular brought up something I'd never thought about. Women with children...he said he would never marry a woman who had a child. When asked why, he replied, cause it wasn't his responsibility to take care of some other man's kid. Let's just say, he wasn't someone I'd like to date. I mean really? It's not your responsibility? It's a deal breaker if she has a kid? Not like it's a good thing, but PLENTY of females these days have kids. Was it a stupid move? Maybe...it depends on the female, BUT it should never come down to it not being your responsibility. If anything, you should want to prove that you're better than the father who left and/or be there for the female under any circumstances.

I think it also goes for the other way around...not that it is seen a lot but if a male has a kid and the mother isn't there...it shouldn't be a deal breaker either.

ALSO, I could see it another way: Possibly he sees it as a milestone that he wants to experience together. having the first child, not knowing what to do, etc. I can honestly say that I do see that; however, if you go to the mall with a girl and then you go to the mall with another girl...is it really the same experience both times? Ok, not a great comparison, but you get my point, right? The experience is not going to be the same every time.

As I'm finishing up here, I got off the phone and thought of a great topic tomorrow: being a closed book. I also realized I open  tomorrow sooooo it's bedtime... gnight all. :-)